Tuesday, September 23, 2014

The Perfect SL Friend

The perfect SL friend is the one who makes you smile...all night long. I love a fantastic sense of humor. You can say I'm a sucker for it because I am. Make me smile, make me laugh...you're what SL is all about to me.  :) Big smile, you get it :) Carry on!

Thursday, August 28, 2014

Just when you think you know it all...

I've been around Second Life a long time, a very long time....since 2006. I'm not on nearly as often as I used to be, but when I am on I always have this feeling that I've experienced everything here and pretty much know all there is to know.

Recently, I discovered I was very wrong. Earlier this week when my friend logged off Second Life for the night, I decided to go somewhere to listen to music. I decided to go to Big Daddy's 80's club because there's always a lot of people there to talk to and it's a fun place. This particular night I saw a name that seemed familiar to me so I started looking through his profile. I decided to send him an IM to ask if he used to own a store in Second Life.

One of my personality traits is my natural curiosity and inability to give up when I'm trying to figure out something. So I'm talking to this stranger and looking through his profile. He's doing the same to mine. Suddenly I start getting all these IM's all at the same time. I'm thinking WOW...I'm really popular tonight lol. It was too many IM's for me to really read what everyone was saying but I noticed one in particular that said "I liked you better as a human". That caught my attention as well as the one that said something about what a nice rabbit I made. So I cammed back over to myself and there I was or something that no longer resembled me at all with my name over it.



My first instinct was to hit the log off button. I noticed an IM that said "did you click a link in someone's profile?". Errr, why yes I did, you see I'm curious. I clicked a link without even reading it in the guy's profile that I was trying to figure out who he was. This link changed me into a rabbit. I didn't know that was possible to click a link, have it undress me, and make me into an animal avatar. Well now I know, and I'm telling you too so that you'll know. Never click a link in someone's profile especially if it has the word "wear" in it.


It was funny, but very embarrassing. However it made Second Life fun for me again. It made Second Life what it used to be for me in the early years. So I guess even though he irritated me a bit, I had fun that night. I talked to more people than I'd talked to in a long time.

I left the rabbit suit on the next day to let my good friend Arol Lightfoot, who's a fantastic Second Life photographer, take some pictures of me. She was kind enough to take some pictures of me as a raccoon as well. Thanks Arol for making them so sexy lol!

Photography by Arol Lightfoot

Check out Arol Lightfoot's Flickr for more of her beautiful work https://www.flickr.com/photos/42051752@N07/


Raccoons can be sexy too - Thanks Arol!

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Second Life Privacy

Privacy on Second Life has always been an issue. Second Life allows its residents to maintain a friends list. You can individually turn off a friend's rights to see you online. Well kind of you can, but more about that later. The friends list is a touchy thing. Some people immediately want to friend you. I don't like to accept friend requests unless I  know someone very well. If it's someone I've spoken to a few times and they seem reasonably sane, then I usually accept their friend requests. After all, how can you find someone again in this virtual world without doing so unless you constantly hang out at the same place all the time? I also feel bad if I don't accept a friend request because I don't like hurting people's feelings.

Sometimes I just like to come on SL and relax and talk to no one. Second Life does not, to my knowledge, allow you to turn all friends off at once. Instead you have to turn off friends individually which is kind of hypocritical to the point of having friends or set yourself in a unavailable mode. I rarely have done this, but there have been a few periods in my RL that I just needed to totally escape from sad situations and just didn't want to talk to anyone. I wish Second Life allowed us to turn all friends off and truly not let us be seen when we feel like it. This would eliminate the majority of the alts in Second Life.

So, moving on now to the point of this blog. There is no true privacy on Second Life. Even if you turn all your friends off, people can still see if you're online by a few methods. One is by looking at the groups you share and seeing your online status. That's why many people don't even show their group memberships. The other way people can detect your online status is by using a scripted avatar tracker. These are available inworld and online on the Marketplace. The trackers will show when you log in, log out, and some even will send you a message or email relaying this information to anyone.

So much for privacy on Second Life. Recently I have been "stalked" on Second Life by someone using a tracker. This person is not on my friends list. I don't know him that well. I talked to him once and he seemed very nice. He may even have been someone I might have liked to have as a friend, but he never gave me that chance to know him before he started tracking me. I log into SL and he starts talking to me on IM. He did this a few times and I finally made the decision not to answer him. I feel  he's invading my privacy. Yes, I could block him and I may have to do so.

I confess that I have used a Tracker before. Being an emotional female, I got SL stupid once about a guy that I suspected was lying to me about his online presence.  I'm not proud of myself for spying on someone but I did it. I don't use a Tracker anymore though because I've decided to allow people their privacy on Second Life as much as I wish they would allow me my privacy.

So what are your feelings about SL privacy issues, trackers, the friends list, the use of the unavailable features? I've been on Second Life since 2006 and feel this is an area the Lindens have done very little to improve over the years. Why do I need to create an alt just to have privacy? Why can't we be allowed to show online to no one without being discovered? Why are trackers still allowed to be sold in Second Life?

~Daisy (or should I use my alt's name for privacy?)

Wednesday, July 2, 2014

Just One More Try

Ever just love a song to death? You could hear it over and over and over and love it even more than the previous time. This isn't a current song, but I love it to death.

One More Try by George Michaels

"Now, I think it's time
that you let me know.
So if you love me, say you love me.
But if you don't, just let me go."

"So I don't want to learn to hold you,
touch you, think that you're mine..."

"Baby, just one more try"

So I'm back on Second Life after a nice long break to give it one more try. Being on Second Life can be like feeling the words of this song over and over when you find the right person to sing it to you. It's those feelings  that keep many  people on Second Life. Just let yourself go to really experience it.



Sunday, April 6, 2014

Making SL a Learning Experience

I've been on Second Life seven years which is way too long. I realize it almost every time I log on. So why do I continue to stay on Second Life? I think being a teacher that I look at  Second Life as a learning experience. I've learned a lot about myself in Second Life, mostly I've learned about my weaknesses. Learning about yourself is a good thing, but only if you use the information to make yourself a better person in both lifes.

Some of the things I've learned on  Second Life:


True friends don't care if you're not perfect. They know your weaknesses and accept you for who you are. They help you when you're down and support you, rather than trying to bring you down even more. Being a true friend is doing the same things back to them in return.

I'm overly sensitive and get hurt way too easily. I tend to lash out in return when someone hurts me. What I've learned is that most of the time, it really wasn't the person's intention to hurt  me.  I take things that people say too personally and let it hurt me too deeply. Most of the time, it's just a random comment someone makes without really thinking about what they're saying. What I'm trying to learn to do when that happens is to talk to them and ask them what they meant by that and tell them how I took it while giving them a chance to explain before I say something hurtful back at them. This is probably the hardest thing for me to "fix" about myself since it's my worst fault.

Anyone who really "cares" about you as a person will not play with your emotions or use you in any life. Someone that  really "cares" about you cannot just let you go from their life without listening to you, trying to understand how you feel, working to make things better, and fighting for you. You have to do the same in return or there is no caring relationship no matter how much you might want there to be one. I need to get better at recognizing the people who are on Second Life who do really care about people from those who are here just on Second Life to "play a game" with people. I need to not be sad when someone like that leaves my Second Life because they were truly never in my life to begin with despite my hopes that they were someone who truly cared.

People who can't forgive others are very sad people because they're probably unable to forgive themselves. Forgive those who apologize, life is too short to hold grudges or to feel that you're in some way superior over someone else that makes a mistake.
"nothing can save you except writing. it keeps the walls from failing.”
Charles Bukowski


If you've read this far, thank you for wanting to learn with me.

~Daisy



Monday, March 31, 2014

Love this dress from Flowerdream Creations

I don't fashion blog much but I had to blog this dress from Flowerdream Creations. This dress is called Christina and is available in blue and pink at the main store and in silver and light green at her satellite store. The best thing about this dress is the price. It's only 55L for 55L Thursdays. It is still available at this price for a few more days so hurry to get it.

The dress is available in standard mesh sizing so make sure you try the demo first. It is mesh with some added prims. The detail is beautiful. The material is that sparkly material that shimmers as you move. Here's a few pictures so you can see the details. This is the pink dress but it's hard to tell that in my pictures. I wish you could see the color of the dress but my windlight setting didn't let the beautiful material shine through.

Full view - both sides have slits showing legs
Back view - low cut with thin straps coming to a v at a jewel


Low cut front - strap at side
Taken at Venezia, Italy in SL
Hair:  Diva Rena
Shoes: Gos Mirror
Dress: Flowerdream Creations

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Courage

My best friend has lung cancer, brain tumors, and now they've told her she has bone cancer too. Yet, she still comes to work and stays as long as she can each day. We work at the same place.  She doesn't want me to come up to her office or call her while she's at work because she knows she'll cry when she sees me. She doesn't want to cry at work.

I stay in my office too, but I cry a lot thinking about her and what she's going through. I think it's comforting to her to know I'm here one floor below her in  case she really needs me. She calls herself a whimp. I call her courageous.

Every little thing in my life suddenly has more meaning. I find myself treasuring every moment and appreciating all the little things that I never used to think about before. I try not to think about the future, but to really live in the present. I wish I knew what to say to comfort her in some way, but the words don't come to me easily anymore. Writing in this blog helps me to gather my thoughts. Forgive me as my blog becomes a mixture of real life and Second Life musings for a while as I try to figure this real world out.