Some of the things I've learned on Second Life:
True friends don't care if you're not perfect. They know your weaknesses and accept you for who you are. They help you when you're down and support you, rather than trying to bring you down even more. Being a true friend is doing the same things back to them in return.
I'm overly sensitive and get hurt way too easily. I tend to lash out in return when someone hurts me. What I've learned is that most of the time, it really wasn't the person's intention to hurt me. I take things that people say too personally and let it hurt me too deeply. Most of the time, it's just a random comment someone makes without really thinking about what they're saying. What I'm trying to learn to do when that happens is to talk to them and ask them what they meant by that and tell them how I took it while giving them a chance to explain before I say something hurtful back to them. This is probably the hardest thing for me to "fix" about myself since it's my worst fault.
Anyone who really "cares" about you as a person will not play with your emotions or use you in any life. Someone that really "cares" about you cannot just let you go from their life without listening to you, trying to understand how you feel, working to make things better, and fighting for you. You have to do the same in return or there is no caring relationship no matter how much you might want there to be one. I need to get better at recognizing the people who are on Second Life who do really care about people from those who are here just on Second Life to "play a game" with people. I need to not be sad when someone like that leaves my Second Life because they were truly never in my life to begin with despite my hopes that they were someone who truly cared.
People who can't forgive others are very sad people because they're probably unable to forgive themselves. Forgive those who apologize, life is too short to hold grudges or to feel that you're in some way superior over someone else that makes a mistake.
|"nothing can save you except writing. it keeps the walls from failing.”
― Charles Bukowski